Friday, February 02, 2007

The Divine Masculine

My previous article, The Divine Feminine, was about more than the feminine. It was also a deeply personal accounting of my own journey. Some of my very closest friends will recognize the deeper message and challenge therein, but I don't think it's necessary to know about that to get the important aspects of that blog.

What is important is how, and why, I find myself stepping up to a new way of doing relationship. New, at least, to me, and, I think, to most men. In that lies the essence of the Divine Masculine. I couldn't live the relationship I'm now living ten years ago. My consciousness would not, could not, have held it.

Ironically, it seems to me that the men's movement, in it's varied forms, has been shocked into existence by patriarchal behavior from the women's movement, and our rising need to reclaim, rediscover, and reinvent what it means to be a "man." We have surrendered to a hero image we can't possibly attain, the accumulation of wealth, disregarding everything but our own ego and power. Patriarchy is the consciousness of greed, the conqueror. We move forward, willfully, throwing our weight around and bend all before us to our will. We are the bully.

We are the sum total of all that has come before us: the Mesolithic hunters, gatherers and Neolithic farmers of matrilineal culture (7000-2000 B.C.); the Indo-European warriors emphasizing the male sky gods in the centuries of the Bronze and Iron Age (2000-800 B.C.); the turn of the millennium with the advent of Christian mythology and its concepts of dualistic division between body and soul, world and spirit and Original Sin; and finally the age of scientific rationalism. Rationalism allows for nothing supernatural and reduces the universe to a language of numerical abstraction - mathematics.

We are also the wounded warriors.

Centuries of patriarchy have numbed our souls, our feelings, our spirit, and we are beginning to awaken to the need to love and work in ways that heal our lives, and the lives of those we love, and those we want to love and want to be worthy of.

With later stage consciousness comes new awareness about the changing role of the masculine. The new masculine, this Divine Masculine, Eros, considers all other aspects, integrating and calling as many perspectives into his BE-ing as he can with fierce awareness, stretching the boundaries of what is possible. Bravely holding space for the feminine, nature, body, spirit, integrity, authenticity, wisdom and heart. The new masculine moves forward, aligning with his true purpose and the full embodiment of presence for the highest good of all beings.

Opening is a conscious choice.

In the deepest relationship I've ever been in my life (and still only five months old) I am being challenged to stretch, to step up, to be bigger than I've ever been, to be fully present with my woman, and the world. I'm in this relationship because I'm finally at a place where my consciousness can fearlessly hold it, embrace it, and fully open to it as my heart explodes in radiance and gratitude.

"Depth is your nature. You are inherently open and loving. You are openness and love. Relax as who you are, which includes woman and world. You will never master them nor escape them. They are you. The light of your consciousness appears as woman and world. The moment you drift into assumed separation, as if you could surmount or escape them, they will bite you--that's how the universe reminds itself who it is: consciousness appearing as its own radiance alive as love." -- From "Finding God Through Sex," a book by David Deida

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Anonymous said...

Hey Gary: I don't know about the rest of the guys but I am damn tired of playing Mighty Mouse and Dudley Dooright. Homey don't play dat no mo! I've hung up my six shooters (but don't fuck with me cuz I still got um and a box of shells and a scatter gun =. Just kiddin'! ;)

Gary Stamper said...

Just be cause we've opened and allowed ourselves to feel and for others to feel us, doesn't mean that we don't still have some of those old tools available to us should we need them. Transcend and include!

Anonymous said...

Gary: What a beautiful posting! I, too, am facing some significant relationship challenges at the moment and find your words inspiring and deeply resonating. I am blessed to call you a close friend and teacher. Transcend and include and throw me a beer, dude! The big game is about to kick off! ;-)

Natural Family News said...

Great post Gary.
Manly men!
Makes me wanna dance:D